My girlfriend wants me to get the tattoo of my son’s name removed’

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A man has said that his girlfriend told him she wants him to get one of his tattoos removed.

In an anonymous post on Reddit, the 26-year-old man explained that when he was 18, he and his ex-girlfriend tragically lost their son after he was born prematurely.

“I loved him the minute he was born,” he said, “It was hard and it messed me up for a long time.”

Sometime after he passed, he got his son’s name tattooed on his chest with his birthdate on it.

But because he’d have to be shirtless for it to be on show, his current girlfriend didn’t see it right away – and when she eventually did, he told her the meaning behind it.

He said: “Now she says it’s been bothering her for a while, didn’t wanna say anything before because she thought she would get over it.”

But the problem is, his son’s name is the same as her ex’s name.

He said: “He was horrible, like pure evil and she went through a lot to get him out of her life permanently.”

Seeing him with his name on his chest is a constant reminder, which is why she’s asked him to get it removed.

He wrote: “My girlfriend says she knows it’s my son’s name and all but times when we’re at the beach and I’m shirtless or we’re showering together or about to get into it, she sees my tattoo and her mind goes to him.

“I told her I don’t wanna have it removed. It means something to me having my son’s name on me because he’s not a part of my life in any other way.

“I tried to be sincere and understanding cause I know her ex was s*** but my girlfriend is still mad at me.

“She said she thought after being open and honest about her feelings that I’d take that into consideration and I’m being an a** basically for not wanting to give her this comfort at least but idk what I could do.

“My son’s name happened to be her ex’s too. We can’t change that and still like to keep my boy’s name.”

He asked users whether he was being unreasonable for refusing to have the tattoo removed and it divided opinions.

Whilst the majority of people agreed that she has no control over his body, others said they could understand how hard it must be for her to see the name all the time.

One person said: “That really sucks for your girlfriend but she doesn’t have jurisdiction of your body and your trauma and pain are just as valid as hers.”

Another said: “She needs to find forgiveness in herself or things like this will continue to control her.

“The name never hurt her, the man did, and if she can’t make that connection then it might be over for the relationship.”

Whilst a third said: “I went through the same thing and I had to get over it. I cringe still but if you choose to live in the past you aren’t living life.”

But another person thought that his girlfriend could be “lying about her ex”.

They wrote: “He’s never heard her bring it up before the tattoo… she saw the tattoo and didn’t say anything forever about the ex.

“I feel like the tattoo is a reminder for her about HIS ex. I think she might be jealous about that…. but I don’t know, that’s my first thought.”